Handling parents who disapprove your marriage?

What will you do if either your partner's, or your own parents disapprove your marriage giving the ultimatum to choose either the family or your partner? Main reason is because we came from different culture, country, language, religion etc and parents find it difficult to communicate as compared to having a local partner. Time may help, but the emotion stress and 'waiting approval' period may wear us out.


I do not have a solution. Is it better off to part ways early?Handling parents who disapprove your marriage?
if you love each other..... than chose your partner......





perhaps, after they see your happiness.... your families will come around.





and even if they don't.... the two of you can still be happily marriedHandling parents who disapprove your marriage?
I would say go ahead and don't worry about it.





Blood is pretty thick. By far most families eventually get over the shock and accept the new member, many later come to love the new member. So going ahead may bring a bunch of tensions and issues in the short term but I do think they'll pass. Just make sue that the family is invited to the wedding and that you gently but also firmly make it clear the marriage is going to happen.





So that's one point of view and certainly the one I recommend from personal experience.





Unfortunately though, when it comes to people things don't always go according to plan. There are some parents who are incredibly stubborn. If you have parents like that you'll have to choose between your new spouse and your family. Personally I would choose the new spouse hoping the family will grow up and forgive eventually but also realizing that we're talking about the future. You, your spouse, and your kids are going to outlive your parents so it makes more sense to think of the future than to dwell in the past or the present and accompilsh nothing until they finally do die.





And then there are some religious families that are also hung up on issues like honour who will go ballistic if you don't do what they say. This one is really tough, they won't forgive you later at all, they could easily hate you forever and they will try to make a lot of trouble for you. If you have a family like that you're in for a tough choice.





But again, personally I'd go for the new spouse, I can't imagine myself living happily in a family that doesn't respect me as an individual and who dictates to me how to live and who to marry. However in this case if you opt for the new spouse be prepared to give up your family forever.





I'm sorry I don't have happier news for you.





I hope it helps a little. Good Luck!

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