I think that is a very interesting question. Although women nowadays do not need to marry for economic survival, as they often did in past centuries(so did men for that matter), neither is it taken for granted, as it was at the turn of the last century for instance, that a woman would stay single if she wanted to pursue a career. At that time it was assumed that women who devoted themselves to careers were happy being single and leading a celibate life.
Nowadays, however women are supposed to want to 'have it all' i.e. have a career, and be married and raise a family as well. So rather than pursuing a career in peace, now women are meant to get married, have a family,a nd then spend a lot of time moaning about how exhausted they are.
In past centuries, it was assumed that some women would remain single, but nowadays the idea seems to be that ';there is somebody for everybody'; and you must keep looking until you find them. So although women of the present may not be as obsessed with marriage as they were during the peak period of the 1950s, I think they are definitely more obsessed than they were say at the beginning of the 20th century, when being single did seem to at least some women as a desirable option.Are women today more obsess with marriage than women in past eras?
I would argue that women today are more obsessed with marriage due to the degradation in the sanctity of marriage. Consider the growth in the divorce rate over the past 30 years (up to 40% of first marriages end in divorce), and also consider the impact of divorce on children, and also the traditional role of women as the primary caregivers to children. If the primary function of marriage is to have children and create a safe environment, then the lack of security in marriage is a major concern, particularly to women. I think this drives the obsession with an ';ideal marriage.'; However, I wonder if the focus on finding the ideal partner for the ideal marriage creates unrealistic expectations that leads, at least in part, to the continued climb in the divorce rate, and also to the continued increase in the average age at which people get married (holding out for that perfect partner). Basically, self-fulling prophosies.
Cicely Hamilton states that marriage was vital to women previously because it represented their only chance of securing survival - therefore, marriage was women's primary trade.
As women now have other means of survival, they are more likely to marry for love, or not at all, so I would think women are much less obsessed with marriage than they used to be :-)
I think people don't take marriage seriously as they did back in the day. I think marriage has become a joke now. Not to all but most people get married and divorced within 3 to 6 months. Just look at all the Hollywood stars...They get married to someone new once a month. I think marriage should be kept sacred and true. I think women are more obsessed with the wedding dress and the wedding than the actual marriage these days...not all but most. They want to get married just for the sake of getting married and are not wanting to fulfill the promise they have made. Just my opinion....
Yes and no.
The modern view is a bit more of a recognition that ';this is my personal desire'; whether or not that be the truth. As oppossed to a more previous view of ';this is what it's suppossed to be like';. The obsession is probably on a similar level, arguably the old view is more mature and aware, since many people I seem to deal with don't want to recognize that a lot of who they are is a product of their environment. And then there is the problem with the idea of disposability of choice, but that's an entirely different topic on its own.
But more directly you are dealing with a statistic that is essentially impossible to measure. So honestly speaking, I don't know, and I don't think it's is possible to find out.
Many women no longer care if they marry. They support themselves and know what needs to be taken care of instead of depending on a mate that drops the ball. They have children and care for them alone without a husband. Liberal sexuality has led to no stigma attached to it, so---women have chosen to do what men have done for centuries.
No. More and more women are staying single. In the past, if you didn't find a husband, you were a social burden, since women weren't allowed to pursue a career. Now women no longer need men for financial security. That being said, women recently have been more and more obsessed with WEDDINGS than before. It's sort of a trend, what with all the TV shows about it and everything. But it will come and go. Mark my words, in 20 years, people will be having small, simple affairs, and will consider it tacky to throw a big expensive wedding.
Not planning on marrying again. Been there, done that, paid for the divorce and lost a lot of cash getting out of it. Haven't seriously considered marriage for over 20 years..so I'd say I'm not obsessing about it a bit.
The only people who worry about never marrying around me are middle-aged men. The women say, that's it, done it once or twice, and don't want to do it again. They don't hate men, they're happy with their lives and don't need a man to be happy. Women have lots of things to make their lives happy, I'm sorry, but quite a few older women don't need men like the older men seem to need women. I'm crazy about my guy, but then again, I'm not married. lol
i think women in the past were more marriage obsessed. women today have more options for the future than just finding a husband.
Hells no. For the first time in history, single women outnumber married women in the U.S. Marriage is no longer the hallmark of a woman's success.
women today hate the thought of marraige and want to have as much freedom as men. in the olden days though women were obsessed about marriage.
I believe is because that in past eras they didn't have much of a choice. Their families where the ones that decided when and with who she would marry.
in the past marrying a good man was all a woman had....he was her life future and it all depended upon him.
women of today make there own future...women are by far less obsessed.
I would say considerably less.
I don't think they are ,one of my sons long time girlfriends refuses to get married or have kids.
i dont know was never bothered. i thought there was less pressure to get married now.
No. But I would say they're more obsessed with weddings.
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