Is it normal to be in marriage with more than 1 wife? Isnt it same with marring with more than 1 husband?

I am not sure any women would agree to share her life with other woman/women. Would a man accept another husband to his wife? Thats real tragedy.Is it normal to be in marriage with more than 1 wife? Isnt it same with marring with more than 1 husband?
Some people can perhaps make peace with anything in life - why do Mormons marry so many times and their wives live such happy lioves together? similarly some muslims marry twice or thrice and it is possible the wives live happily together. In every situation people make compromises and bargains. I suppose to one woman a comfotable and good life can seem a good enough bargain to accept another woman in her husband's life? I cannot hope to understand this mentality but these girls are brought up to think this as normal and hence they dont question it.


There are cultures where women marry several times - however they are dimisnishing. i guess the patriarchial nature of the world is making that less and less acceptable. But that is also equally weird to my mind.


However let me leave you with one thought: Is monogamy normal? Or just popular (- and not really very popular at that!)? Is it normal to agree to live your life with one person all your life? If it is why do so many people stray out of marriage and why do so many people fall out of love with their spouses and divorce? Is that unnatural?


and even when you stay with one wife/husband would you put your hand on your heart and say you were NEVER attracted to anyone else? how many monogamous marriages stay together just bcos it is too inconvenient to break them up? Maybe marrying multiple times is better and perhaps more honest than staying together just for the heck of it.





EDIT: I fully agree with you. But in most countries more than one marriages for men or women are illegal.


But with Islam it is a religious issue and I really dont want to get into whats right and wrong with a religion. Bcos the issues involved are 1000 year old - and there were reasons why 4 wives was the reasonable option then... and there can be a debate that if the Quranic diktats are followed strictly can anyone have more than one wife or not.Is it normal to be in marriage with more than 1 wife? Isnt it same with marring with more than 1 husband?
Well, I asked the same question before, and I got a good answer.





Well, if there was a woman that had more than 1 husband, and if she had kids, then the kids would be confused of who would be their father. I didn't understand what it meant at first, but now I do. Plus, when a man has more than one wife, he has to treat them ALL equally. He can't give one wife a mansion, and then one wife an apartment. So most men prefer not to have more than one wife because it's hard to treat them all equally, and give them the same amount of clothing, jewlery, etc. You get me? There's more reasons, but you wouldn't understand. . .so that's all I will tell you. Plus, I don't feel like going through all of that. It's hard to explain. I hope you understand.
ha! these sort of questions are asked weekly here in Saudi forum


NO the men here dont all go about marrying more than 1 wife..


Yes, Islam allows for this.. but there are strict, extremely strict rules governing this and most men cannot fulfil those rules, so therefore, majority only marry one.. Its rare, extremely rare to find a polygamous marriage anymore here.. The west likes to play up on this and makes it out like every Saudi household is a dual marriage thing.. NO.. its not.


There are also religious reasons behind this rule.. one obvious one, is that in this world there are 4 women to every man ratio.. So if every single man were to marry, thered be 3 women left that wouldnt even have a chance.. This doenst count, gay men or other situations where men cannot marry.. So the count could be higher against women..


Also traditionally when men went off to war, and were killed, widows were left with many children and no means of support.. It was a kind gesture to marry these women into other homes and provide for them and their children..


in other situations. Men (we all know this) are highly sexually charged more so than women.. you cannot deny this. If for some reason he just cannot be satisfied with one, he is allowed to marry another.. This is by far better than lets say a western man who just goes out and has an affair behind his wifes back and ends up with all sorts of problems and illigitament children now in this world.. what happens to the other women and the children that resulted from that affair?.. Well in Islam she is taken care of, she is legally married..


Also Islam demands that the husband take care equally between these wives. Every wife has exact same treatment, financially. Can most men provide two homes, and the same finances to two upkeeps? probably not.


In the Quran our holy book.. God says.. you men are allowed to marry up to 4 (means up to, not absolute) and if you cannot treat them equal which assuradely you cannot, then only take one..





right there, God says to only take one.. the only holy book that actually says Only one!.. it doesnt say this in the bible.. God knows whats in mens minds and knows they cannot handle more than one, so he says to only take one..
No, its not really normal. atleast not in the USA. Its illegal here to have more than 1 wife or husband. I dont see why you would want more than one if you understand what it is too be in love.
You can not be married to more than one person.
yuck! i cant even think of another man in my life.





for me its..............one life, one luv %26amp; the same should b the life partner.