I am in a troubled marriage. I have almost given up my career trying to manage our two kids?

My inlaws are very traditional and interfering even if they don't live with us. My husband depends on them for a lot of decisions, which I feel, us as a husband and wife should make. I feel like starting over in life but because I have kids and am not working I feel trapped in this marriage.I am in a troubled marriage. I have almost given up my career trying to manage our two kids?
No wonder you feel trapped. You are married to your in laws! I do sense that there is a husband in here somewhere... maybe if he had a spine he would stand up and be a man about it. Marriage is sacred, at least, to some of us it is.





If you've tried setting your hubby straight on this and he refuses to change, it might well be time for you to end the 4 way marriage.I am in a troubled marriage. I have almost given up my career trying to manage our two kids?
Try if it can be worked out. Otherwise, get out and start all over again. Needs a lot of courage and resources.
Your Husband needs to wake up.and you are fortunate enough to live separate from them.


May i suggest that you start your campaign starting with your children and hubby as core, nuclear family?..


1).make sure your children are well dressed, and are present when ur hubby comes home from work?..and teach the kids to pamper him when he comes.


2) you too make an effort to look Smart, and have a smile on ur face,


and have food ready 4 all of u and sit to gather to eat.


3)try to make his fav food..


4)finally..how u please in bed only u know!


then you can gradually turn the screws and make him behave the way u want!..good luck!
Yes, you are trapped, and the only way out is independence!!! Make your own money and get a divorce so you can start over!!


Good luck!
Only you know in your heart if the situation will ever change. If you don't think it will then I think you have your answer. However, if you think it may and you're still in love don't give up. I would be saving money and learning a trade just in case doesn't work.
Jeena isi ka naam hai.
whether it be man or women, when u marry them, u marry the family. Try not to look at it as if they are a spoke in the wheel, but a way to take away some added stress regarding decisions. I'm sorry to say, ill try to be kind in saying so. because u do not bring home an income many husbands, wife's , and families would feel that the other half with no income should not be involved in making decisions bc there is no financial contributions to the house hold. those who make the money make the rules and decisions. people who contribute finance are taken more adult like than those who do not. so, try working and put ur cash towards the cost of living, couldn't hurt. you may get the respect you feel u r in-tittled to.
Don't take much tension every thing will get settle down with time. Always be positive.... I surely know you dislike your husband following whatever his parent's advice..... Its ok...be cool...you can at least tell him to involve you also while taking any major decision...and If any thing that you really feel wrong try to convince all three together so that they will start liking you...slowly you will find your husband relying in you for every decision...this all without hurting his parents... Nobody after marriage follow their parents for a long time. Believe me ....He will change. keep patience . Also take care of your kids they really need you. Find some time to read news papers and if you are having strong educational background sharpen your knowledge...When kids will grown up you can start working ... always keep your attitude positive ....All the best...
Why do you feel trapped ,develop friends and have a healthy life style .Friendship can take you out of this mess .Cheers Lethal
which is why you need to get away from family, so the couple has to be dependent on each other,,, i would guess that when you bring that up yo him he gets hot saying that he can rely on them for help cause he hasnt cut the apron strings yet, hope it works out but in the meantime take some kind of classes or traing to get you making money and you can be self relient, good luck,